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Comforting Thoughts

Onions

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One of the best things for spiritual healing is to get outside. Into the sunshine – into the light.
Winter makes this hard to do. But spring is finally offering it’s first teasing tastes of better days ahead.
This weekend brought us temps in the low 50’s and sunshine.
I went out to my garden and planted some [...]

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Lighting Candles at Church

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The Compassionate Friends have an annual candle lighting ceremony and lighting candles is an important ritual in the Catholic Church. I light candles for Richard at least once a week.
So why do we light candles?
In lighting candles we see our prayer rising up to heaven. We join our prayer in solidarity with others that have [...]

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Faith

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Faith seems to play a big part in dealing with our grief. It even played a part in causing our grief.
Faith in the medical profession was a big factor in Richard’s death. I’m sure the generic seizure medicine caused him to have his last seizure. We believed what they all told us – that generics [...]

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The Grief Roller Coaster

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Life after lossing a child has been a big roller coaster ride.
There have been a lot of deep plunges into the unknown.
And then there have been times the track has leveled out, maybe even climbed a small hill or two.
But the ride continues and the path ahead is uncertain.
Right now the track has smoothed out [...]

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It Seemed SO Real

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Since Richard’s death I haven’t dreamed about him. There was the one weird dream about him making comments on Facebook. But he hasn’t been in my dreams in person.
Until last night.
It was one of those incredibly vivid dreams. The kind that seem so very real. Intensely real. And Richard was there. Alive.
I was standing there [...]

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A Nice Call

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Got a call from Dusty Rhodes today.
Dusty is Chapter Leader of The Compassionate Friends of Frankfort, KY and the regional coordinator. Debbie has been to a few meetings there and we both went to the last meeting before Christmas.
Dusty called to just let us know he was thinking about us. This is our first Christmas [...]

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The Story Behind “Precious Child”

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While searching for information about the Worldwide Candle Lighting I stumbled upon the song “Precious Child.” Or maybe I should say I was grabbed by the song. It really had a strong affect on me.
Because this song had such a strong affect on me, I went searching for the artist. “Precious Child was written and [...]

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Our First Candle Lighting Ceremony

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Tonight we went to the Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting at Frankfort, KY.
This is a memorial service for the parents, family and friends of our lost children. We honor the memory of our child with music, poems, a slide show and a candle lighting service. This event happens in each time zone all over the [...]

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Richard’s Fruit Salad

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The holiday season has arrived. And for us that means family gatherings.
My siblings, our children and our dogs meet at “The Farm” – my dad’s place.
The Farm is 153 acres of rolling hills surrounded by creaks. There are ponds for fishing and plenty of woods to explore. The kind of place you can let the [...]

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Thanksgiving – Our First Big Holiday

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It’s Thanksgiving Day here in the USA. Time to give thanks to our maker for all the good things he has given us.
It has also been six months since Richard died.
So you probably think we won’t find anything to be thankful for. After all it’s hard to be thankful for grief, pain and a huge [...]

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Strange Dream

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I haven’t had a dream since Richard died. At least not one I remembered.
Until last night.
In my dream I was checking out Facebook.
And Facebook said, “Richard Mudd commented on…”
A couple of times.
Don’t remember whose Facebook posts he commented on. Not sure I even recognized the names.  Seeing Richard making comments sort of shocked me, you [...]

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Can You Dream Again?

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After Richard’s death Paula Fangman from our church gave us a copy of Healing After Loss – Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman. Paula found this book helpful after her husband passed away.
It contains some inspiring quotes and a short reading for each day of the year.
The entry for October 23 [...]

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Happiness by the Books

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As grieving parents we tend to notice – even concentrate – on one thing ; our grief.
That’s something we can’t avoid for a long time after our child has passed away. It just keeps jumping up and smacking us in the face.
But at some point we all need to find a way out of that [...]

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The Smile Challenge

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Richard was a Dr. Seuss fan. He had all his children’s books. And he demanded they be protected from visiting small children.
So I thought this image and the up lifting  message it presents would be a good choice for grieving parents.
It’s a tough goal. Sometime we can make it, sometime we can’t get there.
You can [...]

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Getting Away From It All

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Debbie had to go to a conference for her job this past week. It was at Lake Barkley State Resort Park. We decided to turn it into a get away from it all mini-vacation. So I took several days off from work and tagged along.
It was a pretty low key conference, with plenty of down [...]

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Farewell Letter

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The day before Richard’s funeral we had a visitation at the funeral home.
I wrote a letter to our guests. We framed it and displayed it next to the guest book along with a picture of Richard.
Many people asked me for a copy of that letter. For the life of me, I can’t imagine why.
But I’m [...]

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New Attitude on Dying

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OK I’ll admit it. The idea of dying has always scared me to death.
I’ve never wanted to do it.
After I reached my 50th birthday I figured I had just started living my second fifty years. I’ve always wanted to live as long as possible.
Losing one of my children has changed my attitude.
If I have any [...]

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Gifts at the Grave

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I visited Richard’s grave the other day and found a new addition – pictured above.
Richard had many good friends. His passing affected them as well as it did us. They miss him too.
They visit his grave. We’ve been there a few times when they’ve arrived.
Other times they’ve left clues. Like these soft drinks that were [...]

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The Richard Book

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Debbie’s birthday was last month.
Her gift from our daughter Sarah arrived from Texas the other day. In the enclosed birthday card, Sarah instructed her mom to share the gift with me. There was a pack of Kleenex attached to the gift, warning of an emotional surprise inside.
It was a special gift indeed.
Inside was a custom-made [...]

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Franklin on Death

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The founders of our nation were pretty smart folks.
Following the death of his brother John Franklin, Benjamin Franklin wrote this letter to Elizabeth Hubbard, his brothers stepdaughter, on February 22, 1756
Dear Child,
I condole with you, we have lost a most dear and valuable relation, but it is the will of God and Nature that these [...]

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