Groovy Grieving Music

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Musick has Charms to sooth a savage Breast To soften Rocks, or bend a knotted Oak. I’ve read, that things inanimate have mov’d, And, as with living Souls, have been inform’d, By Magick Numbers and persuasive Sound. What then am I? Am I more senseless grown Than Trees, or Flint? O force of constant Woe! […]

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Beyond Tears by Ellen Mitchell

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There are certain truisms in life. One of them is that it goes against the natural order of things to bury one’s child. However, as bereaved mothers we can no longer believe in natural order. Our comfortable, secure lives, our innocence, all were shattered with the deaths of our children. Now our reality is upside […]

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Words of Wisdom, Hearts of Love

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We just attended our second TCF Frankfort KY Regional Conference, titled “Words of Wisdom, Hearts of Love.” This conference was scheduled for Friday and Saturday at the Capital Plaza Hotel in Frankfort, KY. The Best Plans of Mice and Grieving Parents We only live 30 minutes from the conference site, but we planned to spend […]

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Review: life after the death of my son: what I’m learning – by Dennis Apple

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Several months before his death, Richard was home for the weekend and he was looking at one of my bookcases. On one shelf he spotted a stack of books about seizures and epilepsy. He looked at them and asked me, “Why do you have all these?” “Because you have that little time bomb in your […]

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When There Are No Words – A Review

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It seems most of the books about surviving the loss of a child are written by women. This probably isn’t a surprise. Grieving is all about feelings. Most of us guys get queazy when we have to deal with feelings. We just don’t talk about feelings much. We have them, but we would rather you didn’t […]

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Journal Writing

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After your child dies you become desperate for something that helps ease the pain. Anything that will bring healing. One tool often recommended by counselors is journal writing. A journal gives you a place to put your thoughts, frustrations, remembrances. This blog is my version of a journal. I’ve found it helps to get some […]

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The Grandmother of Grief?

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Both days of the recent conference by TCF Frankfort, KY opened in a session with Darcie Sims. She told us, “I’m probably the oldest member of TCF,” at least based on the time she’s been a bereaved mom – 34 years. In fact she was one of the early leaders in growing TCF into a […]

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TCF Regional Conference

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We’ve been doing some crafts lately. Making some pretty horseshoes. We’ll be going to the Frankfort Compassionate Friends regional conference this coming weekend. The people attending the conference will receive a gift bag. I don’t know what all will be in that bag, but I do know it will have a real nice horseshoe. The idea […]

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TCF Frankfort Website

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“Our” chapter of The Compassionate Friends launched a new website recently. If you live near Frankfort, KY and have lost a child or sibling you should check them out. They’re having a conference in March. Details are at the website:

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GriefNet provides email support groups for all areas of grief. There are thirteen groups listed for loss of a child. GriefNet asks for a $10 per month donation to be part of a group. They say no one is turned away for financial reasons. They do offer a one month free trial so you can […]

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On Grief and Grieving – Book Review

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Dealing with the loss of a child is exhausting. After reading On Grief and Grieving by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler I understand why. Grieving is hard work. I never knew there was so much to deal with. First the authors outline five stages of grief: Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance I think that last […]

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My First Compassionate Friends Meeting

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I always take off from work several days before the Christmas break. I did so this year too. So I was able to go to a meeting of The Compassionate Friends at our local chapter in Frankfort KY last night.  This is one of the more active chapters going. They hold a meeting twice each […]

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Compassionate Friends

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Grief Support After the Death of a Child “The Compassionate Friends is about transforming the pain of grief into the elixir of hope. It takes people out of the isolation society imposes on the bereaved and lets them express their grief naturally. With the shedding of tears, healing comes. And the newly bereaved get to […]

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Quit Kissing My Ashes Review

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I don’t remember how I stumbled onto this book. I guess I was looking for some hints on dealing with grief. Certainly the thought that our son isn’t really dead is a nice one. That our physical death is just the transformation into another phase of our life. Stop Kissing My Ashes – A Mother’s […]

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