From the monthly archives:

December 2009

A Nice Call

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Got a call from Dusty Rhodes today.
Dusty is Chapter Leader of The Compassionate Friends of Frankfort, KY and the regional coordinator. Debbie has been to a few meetings there and we both went to the last meeting before Christmas.
Dusty called to just let us know he was thinking about us. This is our first Christmas [...]

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Christmas Morning 2009

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Dear Richard,
It’s Christmas.
You’re not here. It’s not the same without you.
No country ham. We did have bacon, nice and crispy but not burnt.
Sarah passed out the gifts. You weren’t sitting cross-legged on the floor to get yours. Your stocking was empty. Unless you count all the thoughts of love that we sent out to you.
It [...]

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The Story Behind “Precious Child”

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While searching for information about the Worldwide Candle Lighting I stumbled upon the song “Precious Child.” Or maybe I should say I was grabbed by the song. It really had a strong affect on me.
Because this song had such a strong affect on me, I went searching for the artist. “Precious Child was written and [...]

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My First Compassionate Friends Meeting

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I always take off from work several days before the Christmas break. I did so this year too.
So I was able to go to a meeting of The Compassionate Friends at our local chapter in Frankfort KY last night.  This is one of the more active chapters going. They hold a meeting twice each month. [...]

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Christmas Memories

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Of our three children, Richard probably looked most forward to Christmas.
He was four months old on his first Christmas. After we put the tree up we brought Richard into the room and put him on the floor in front of the tree. He lit up just like that tree. He just squealed and laughed. He [...]

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Christmas Decorating at the Cemetery

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Sunday afternoon we did a little Christmas decorating at the cemetery.
There have already been many wreaths showing up. Debbie decided she wanted Richards grave to look different. So she bought a couple of small live trees. She put in a few ornaments and red bows.
Richard always insisted on cranberry sauce for Christmas. Not the store [...]

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A Christmas Letter to God

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Dear God,
I hope this letter finds you well. How are things in heaven? I hope all is going well. I guess they’d have to be pretty good, or they wouldn’t call it heaven would they?
Down here on earth they say you are all knowing and all powerful. That you never screw up. In fact they [...]

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Our First Candle Lighting Ceremony

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Tonight we went to the Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting at Frankfort, KY.
This is a memorial service for the parents, family and friends of our lost children. We honor the memory of our child with music, poems, a slide show and a candle lighting service. This event happens in each time zone all over the [...]

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Precious Child by Karen Taylor-Good

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We will be attending the Worldwide Candle Lighting tomorrow.  On the web page about this event there is a video. It features the song Precious Child by Karen Taylor-Good. The song grabbed me. It’s beautiful and amazing. I found a video on YouTube that just has the song – no info about the Candle Lighting.
Warning [...]

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Compassionate Friends

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Grief Support After the Death of a Child
“The Compassionate Friends is about transforming the pain of grief into the elixir of hope. It takes people out of the isolation society imposes on the bereaved and lets them express their grief naturally. With the shedding of tears, healing comes. And the newly bereaved get to see [...]

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Richard’s Fruit Salad

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The holiday season has arrived. And for us that means family gatherings.
My siblings, our children and our dogs meet at “The Farm” – my dad’s place.
The Farm is 153 acres of rolling hills surrounded by creaks. There are ponds for fishing and plenty of woods to explore. The kind of place you can let the [...]

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