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  • A Brick In Memory of Richard

    A Brick In Memory of Richard

    After Richard’s death we asked friends and family to make donations in memory of him to a couple of charities.

    Since Richard was an eagle scout the Boy Scouts of America were a natural choice.

    We also chose the WHAS Crusade for Children. The Crusade for Children is a local charity, featuring a weekend long telethon on WHAS 11 TV in Louisville.

    From their website:

    Our Mission

    The WHAS Crusade for Children exists to change the lives of children with special needs in Kentucky and Indiana.

    Our Vision

    To be able to fully fund all grant requests for organizations that provide help to children with special needs.

    Watching your 20-something child struggle with his health is really tough. I think it would be even more devastating to watch a small child fight health problems that will affect most of them for their entire life.

    The Crusade gives them hope.

    My brother Stuart and his wife Lori made a donation to the Crusade. I guess that at a certain level of donation you can have a brick placed on a special memorial sidewalk. Stuart and Lori got a brick for Richard.

    The WHAS Crusade for Children sent us a nice certificate citing this gift and giving us the location of our brick.

    Debbie went today and took a picture of the brick.

    This is a nice way to remember someone you love and help someone that really needs it.

    Thanks Stuart and Lori.

  • Memorial Montage

    Memorial Montage

    Memories.

    As grieving parents, they’re all we have left of our missing child.

    Pictures are one of the best ways to share those memories. But if you’re like us, those pictures may be squirreled away in boxes, or in  many photo albums. We’ve got another option to help put your child’s life on display – the photo montage.

    Richard’s “official” date of death was May 28. That is when he was discovered. He had actually passed on several days before that – I’m certain it was on the 23rd. Because of this, his body was in bad shape. We couldn’t have an open casket at the visitation service. We’ve never seen the dead Richard.

    Richard was a great kid, and we wanted to show him off to people that came to the service. We had lot’s of pictures. With the help of our daughter Sarah, their cousins Hannah and Shelby, and Richard’s girl friend Ivy, we assembled a couple of nice photo albums. We had these out at the funeral home for people to enjoy.

    One service our funeral home offers is a photo montage of the deceased. We got the biggest one – 30 X 40.

    I handed them about 35 pictures of Richard at 5pm Saturday afternoon and the montage was ready at the visitation service the next morning. It was placed in a temporary frame and displayed on an easel.

    We were able to take our guests over to the montage and share Richard’s life with them.

    That montage really did show our kid. It was him, from the day he was born til just before his death. Richard being Richard – smiling and enjoying life. Bringing joy to those around him.

    We’ve had it framed and it now hangs on the wall in our TV room. That way I can still watch football games with my kid.

    Turns out the funeral home doesn’t do these montages on-site. They have it done at Memory Lane Montages in Frankfort, KY.

    Rogers Funeral Home in Frankfort started offering this montage service for their customers. It became popular. So popular in fact, they spun this off into a separate business. They now have contracts with several area funeral homes. They also sell direct to the public through their website. Funeral homes go to the front of the line, so don’t expect an overnight turn around on your order. It can take several weeks.

    We are very pleased with our montage of Richard. It is now a family heirloom.

    Visit Memory Lane Montages Online.

  • The Richard Book

    The Richard Book

    Debbie’s birthday was last month.

    Her gift from our daughter Sarah arrived from Texas the other day. In the enclosed birthday card, Sarah instructed her mom to share the gift with me. There was a pack of Kleenex attached to the gift, warning of an emotional surprise inside.

    It was a special gift indeed.

    Inside was a custom-made book that Sarah created for us.

    Within the leather bound covers were 30+ pages of Richard pictures. Many of the glossy pages also had Bible verses or other quotes that Sarah had selected.

    There was the letter I wrote for display at the funeral home. And Father Bill’s sermon from the funeral mass.

    It had to take Sarah a lot of time and thought to make this beautiful book. It will be a family heirloom.

    The tissues were a good touch too.