April 2010

Spring In The Cemetery

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Though it often hasn’t felt possible after Richard’s death, life does indeed go on. Spring is when nature shows us there is hope. There is new life. I took my camera to the cemetery this morning. Even in a place that is the focus of our pain there is also much beauty. Hope you enjoy [...]

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Last 1040

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April 15th. Tax day. Doing my taxes has never been one of my favorite things. Probably not yours either. Just seeing all that money that was taken away from us, and knowing it was just the tip of the iceberg with all the other taxes we pay on a day-t0-day basis, I usually end up in [...]

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Feel Like a Tennis Ball

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Back in my college days I liked to play tennis. Never was very good at it, in fact my girl friend at the time used to beat me every time we played. I feel like I’m back at playing tennis. But this time I’m the ball. I’ll be depressed and in the dumps. Then – [...]

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To An Unconquerable Soul

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Invictus – William Ernest Henley Out of the night that covers me,
 Black as the pit from pole to pole, 
I thank whatever gods may be
 For my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance 
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
 Under the bludgeonings of chance
 My head is bloody, but unbowed. Beyond [...]

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Grieving Dad’s Project

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I stumbled upon this site today. Geared toward grieving dads. Kelley Farley is a bereaved father that’s had two children die. He has decided to write a book to help grieving fathers. His website tells his story and leads to a survey where you can tell yours. He hopes to get enough stories about dad’s [...]

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Easter

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It’s Easter Sunday. Another big family gathering day. Another check mark on our Year of Firsts check list. Our first Easter without Richard. I really hate these Year of Firsts check off items. But I’m pretty sure I’ll hate the Year of Seconds, and the Year of Thirds and on and on etc., etc., just [...]

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When There Are No Words – A Review

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It seems most of the books about surviving the loss of a child are written by women. This probably isn’t a surprise. Grieving is all about feelings. Most of us guys get queazy when we have to deal with feelings. We just don’t talk about feelings much. We have them, but we would rather you didn’t [...]

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Journal Writing

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After your child dies you become desperate for something that helps ease the pain. Anything that will bring healing. One tool often recommended by counselors is journal writing. A journal gives you a place to put your thoughts, frustrations, remembrances. This blog is my version of a journal. I’ve found it helps to get some [...]

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